By Polly Jensen | Posted 2.15.2017
When we think about celebrations, our minds run to parties, presents and maybe even a toast or a dance. We’ve a lifetime of celebrations so our mind quickly imagines an event. We know weddings. We know showers. We know birthday parties. Those are the big celebrations, everyday celebrations are a bit different.
Everyday celebrations don’t require hoopla though they may require forethought and planning. Quite simply, everyday celebrations recognize something special about another person, a person important in your life.
Everyday celebrations can happen every day or every other day or once a week or whatever timeline works in your relationship with the person you choose to celebrate.
Everyday celebrations come in many forms. It may be you leave notes for that special person. When he travelled, my late husband knew to anticipate the cards and notes I slipped into his luggage. He’d open one each evening before bed but he’d anticipated each message all day long.
It could be you make a phone call or stop-by for a visit. It might be you take a few minutes of one-on-one with each of your children. It might be you establish a date night with your partner or spouse and make it a ritual.
What makes it a celebration? It’s a celebration of your relationship when you focus on a special facet of the other person. It’s a celebration when you recognize them. It’s even a celebration when you hear out their deepest fears because you are caring for them and their unique needs. It’s a celebration of your relationship when you remember to tell that other person how much you care.
What do you have to do to make it happen? You’ll need to watch and listen. To celebrate another person means you are thoughtfully aware of their life experience. Perhaps your spouse or friend is fearful for their job. Perhaps your person is training for a marathon, a mountain climb or even a crossword competition. Well-timed thoughtfulness will encourage them in their endeavor, it will make them feel appreciated and you’ll feel pretty wonderful as well.
What do social psychologists say about everyday celebrations? It’s like a glue, it helps to strengthen relationships. They also note that the path to personal happiness is strewn with small, thoughtful acts on behalf of others.